DEPRESSION: Not a joking sturrvs

Many a times, depression is taken really lightly in our part of the world...BUT it is a big deal! A DEPRESSIVE DISORDER is not a passing blue mood but rather persistent feelings of sadness and/or worthlessness and a lack of desire to engage in formerly pleasurable activities. 

Today, I am not a blogger or anything. Just a person...a person who knows what it feels like to be depressed. A person who has had a lack to engage in pleasurable activities. A person who has had suicidal thoughts. 

Yes, I have had suicidal thoughts...because at a time you think being out of this world, would make everything better. You think you have no reason to live. You think "Even God has given up on me." 
That moment, that split second, you assume no one is going through more pain than you are.

And it's even worse going through this in a typical African home; with African parents who believe that "your mates (who are doing better) do not have two heads"!!

It's unbearable when you are surrounded by people yet have no one to talk to. Not a single soul! Because you parents don't wanna hear about you "little" issues, your siblings are looking up to you, your bestfriend might just spill it all out to the world and your boyfriend thinks you're overreacting.

And we females are even more prone to this disorder because of how vulnerable we are, how our brains overthink issues and how badly we are at dealing with bad situations. Not a single soul wants to even try and understand your frustrations, your problems...everyone just assumes you're PMS'ing!! Everyone wants you to shut up 'cos someone is going through worse in life.

But the thing is we all don't have the same strength to absorb and deal with events. "One man's meat is definitely another man's poison". What will tear me apart will seem like "a small sturrvs" to you but yours may seem irrelevant to me too. So let just be there for each other. Let's stop being hypocritical. Let's listen to our wards and kids even though their problems don't seem to matter. Let us make therapists available for these amazing people who are going through trying times. 
Hmph! Depression is real. Depression is growing even more rampant in our generation. Depression is taking too many lives. Lives of too many beautiful human beings that the world needs...SIMPLY BECAUSE THERE IS NO ONE TO TALK TO!!!


It's about time we come together to fight this monster called DEPRESSION!!
It's about time we become our 'brothers' keeper'!
It's about time we become better parents, friends...better human beings!
It's about time we get educated on depression!!

In partnership with Makeup by Dela,Hair by Larousha and NuvivicakesGh we're starting a secondary school tour  education on depression. You can click the link below to join a whatsapp group or leave your comments down in the comment box and i'd happily reply your comments. 


TO ANYONE DEALING WITH DEPRESSION ATM:
YOU'RE AN AMAZING INDIVIDUAL WHOSE EXISTENCE IN THE WORLD IS MORE APPRECIATED THAN YOU CAN EVER IMAGINE. YOU'RE UNIQUE AND SPECIAL AND EVEN THOUGH IT MAY BE DIFFICULT TO FEEL IT AT THIS POINT, YOU'RE DEEPLY LOVED. SUICIDE IS NOT THE SOLUTION!!!


Click link to join group 
https://chat.whatsapp.com/JLWxDqzK7Nh99GCvDlulLb

CHEATING: The Discussion

Hey lovelies! So this issue has been bugling my mind for some time now. I mean this is a real issue affecting most lives. Hope you enjoy.

In a very broad sense, cheating involves betraying a partner’s expectations about the type of contact the cheater has with others.

When a husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, violates one’s expectations about what is appropriate, people feel betrayed. Keep in mind that relationships are not based on logic, but are influenced by our emotions.

As a result, cheating is difficult to define because people differ in the type of contact they feel it is appropriate for a partner to have with someone else.

Cheating is the getting of a reward for ability or finding an easy way out of an unpleasant situation by dishonest means according to a dictionary...and I totally agree!
Most of us find the easiest way out of difficult situations by just cheating. 

I know the question on your mind now is "why do people cheat?" 

Basically, when it comes to infidelity, two related explanations have been given.

The first explanation is probably the most well known: Spouses cheat because of problems in their relationship. Something is missing, passion has faded, partners feel lonely, a partner finds someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current spouse, and so on.

Simply stated, people claim that they are not happy in their relationship, so they look for love and affection elsewhere.

The second explanation is more detailed in nature. This explanation ignores the reasons that people give for cheating and looks deeper into our human nature.

The second explanation explores what it means to be human and asks: "Why is being faithful to a spouse so difficult for many people?"

Probably the best way to think about these two explanations is to view them as two sides of the same coin.


One explanation looks at what people say about infidelity, while the other explanation looks at how and why infidelity occurs.

Together, both explanations give us a more complete picture about infidelity, love, and romance.

Comment below and share your reason for cheating, which gender is more unfaithful in a relationship, how you found out your partner was cheating or any other thing you wanna share on this topic.

CIAO!!